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  3. If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it yourself, especially to your own children. But how yo

If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it yourself, especially to your own children. But how yo

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问题     If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quiet tricky.
    If you say to your children "I am sorry I got angry with you, but ..." what follows that "but’ can render the apology ineffective. "I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
    Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say ’Tm sorry you’re upset"; this suggests that you are somewhat at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
    Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I’m useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
    These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
    But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children will need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy to requires an apology. A six-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the buscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
According to the author, saying "I’m sorry you’re upset" most probably means " ______".
选项 A、You have good reason to get upset
B、I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame
C、I apologize for hurting your feelings
D、I’m at fault for making you upset
答案B
解析 文章第三段列举了一种道歉方式口am sorry you are upset)，这是作者批计的另一做法，这种方法虽是道歉，但暗示自己并没有错。
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