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Marriage therapists teach a skill called active listening. Each partner takes a turn listening, then paraphrases what he’s heard

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问题     Marriage therapists teach a skill called active listening. Each partner takes a turn listening, then paraphrases what he’s heard and validates it. There is, however, a problem. It rarely works. For 80 percent of couples, active listening is too hard. It feels wooden, like emotional gymnastics. Nor does "fighting well predict happy marriages". Even happy couples have screaming matches. Every time you raise a hot-button issue, such as the in-laws or money, does your husband suddenly clam up? More than 80 percent of the time, it’s the wife who brings up sticky material issues, while the husband tries to avoid discussing them. This isn’t a symptom of a troubled marriage — it’s true in most happy marriages.
    You’ll often hear that staying in a bad marriage is worse for everybody concerned — especially the children — than getting divorced. That may be true if your home is. so riddled with hostility that it’s like a war zone. But University of Chicago sociologist Linder J. Waite says she has found that 75 percent of couples who rated their marriages as miserable but stayed of married were happy five years later.
    We usually think the strongest marriages are those that survive major traumas, such as bankruptcy or an extramarital affair. But frequently, dealing with the little things, those daily annoyances, eat away at a marriage. "Every couple experiences disappointment as initial romance and passion fade and they discover all their differences," says Wolin. "He doesn’t do enough housework. She is too emotional. He watches too much TV. She’s too lenient with the kids. People think these differences as problem, but they’re actually opportunities to build marital muscles. "
Which of the following is NOT true about active listening?
选项 A、Active listening is necessary if you want to "fight well".
B、A majority of couples doesn’t practice active listening.
C、Active listening doesn’t ensure happy marriages.
D、Active listening has proven to be a little impractical.
答案A
解析 细节判断题。根据题干关键词active listening定位到原文首段。首段提到active listening和fightwell是婚姻生活发生问题时截然不同的两种处理方式，前者是冷静的交流沟通，后者是激烈对峙，但前者很难实现，大部分的夫妻都不采取，因此B、C、D三项是正确的论述。故答案为A。
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