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Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most

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问题     Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don’t love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love. There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn’t work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.
    Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. It’s part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification.  We think it is love when it’s simply distraction and infatuation. One consequence is that when we hit real love we become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal.
    Limerance is the psychological state of deep infatuation. It feels good but rarely lasts. Limerance is that first stage of mad attraction whereby all the hormones are flowing and things feel so right. Limerance lasts, on average, six months. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as limerance, but limerance doesn’t always evolve into love.
    Love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. Erich Fromm called it "an act of will. " If you don’t learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough, but because you will have many failure experiences.
    There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don’t distance you or kill the relationship. You do that by understanding where the other person is coming from, who that person is, and by being able to represent yourself. When the differences are known you must be able to negotiate and compromise on them until you find a common ground that works for both.  
According to the passage, why are we still upset and disappointed when love comes?
选项 A、We think it is not real love.
B、We find love is actually very unrealistic.
C、We become more vulnerable in love.
D、We find it is different from the ideal "love" concept in our mind.
答案D
解析 细节题；我们借助题目中的定位词“upset and disappointed”，可以在原文的第二段找到相关的信息，而在这个位置我们可以找到“because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal”这样的表达，再结合文章的意思我们知道这里所说的“cultural ideal”指的是原文的“the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment”。 所以我们比较4个选项，可以看到D选项的分析是正确的。其他选项都分别和原文有一些细节和表达上的联系，比如A选项的“real love”、B选项的“unrealistic”和C选项的“vulnerable”，但它们都没有对原文的信息进行正确的解释，是干扰选项。
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